Responsibility For Change

This is a rather important concept that applies to you whenever there is Change process involved. Responsibility to change is always your responsibility. I can’t be responsible for your, I am merely instructing you what to do during the session and you still need to do what is suggested. NLP and all the other techniques that you’ll learn during this coaching sessions work 100% of the time when applied correctly and in the appropriate context.

If I was to say "close the eyes" and you don’t close your eyes, I would bring about the responsibility subject. Whose responsibility is to close the eyes, mine or yours? I can’t make you do anything, which is why we like to look at NLP as a "to do with" process and not a "do to" process. In fact, it’s often though about NLP to be some sort of "power over people" and although the understanding of our minds and neurology will give me great advantage in terms of communication and interactions with people, it does not give me the power over them. Furthermore, I believe that you will get far better results if you chose to believe that NLP and Coaching is a "do with" process.

I strongly believe that rapport will get me far, far better results, helping and guiding my client to change, rather than showing change down their throats. And we would always make it client’s responsibility to change. They need to want to change and they need to follow the instructions given.

This is why I have a few guidelines to consider when choosing my clients. We’ll cover these in details later on, for now just remember that you needs to be at Cause, responsible for everything that’s happening in your life, including the outcome of our session. And change will always happen; in fact Change is the only inevitable thing in our whole Universe. Change happens all the time. However, we need to take the responsibility for it and be accountable for changes that we Cause in our lives.

And as a client you will simply need to follow the instructions. If you don’t follow, you won’t get the desired results. And imagine hiring someone for a job. Someone who wouldn’t follow your instructions. Would that be OK? Same goes for choosing my client, I want client that will want to follow the instructions and take responsibility for his or her own change/transformation.

What do you think, in which case will I cause more profound changes for my client:
Clients that comes to me:

- Stating: "Here I am, I paid you already, do it to me, fix me." or
- Stating: "I am willing to do whatever it takes, help me make that change."

The correct answer should be rather obvious here. And same applies for responsibility to find value

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Isobel Esterhuyse

Master Life Coach, Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Coach, Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner, Dynamic Quantum Time Line Master Practitioner.

Burk Esterhuyse

Certefied NLP Trainer (ANLP), Master Life Coach, Neuro Linguistic Programming Master Practitioner, Dynamic Quantum Time Line Master Practitioner.

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